okay, okay... not perfect by any means... but just those little (and big) things that I want in a guy. :)
As you get older... husband prospects change... and what you want changes. I've always said I've wanted a Godly man first and foremost, but there are a few things that are not necessary, but I think it would aid in the attraction because of my life goals and what I like. lol. I know that sounds awful... but it is the God honest truth. So here I am... about to rewrite what I want in a Godly husband. and quite possibly what I've wanted all along and just dismissed it. lol. mind you, I'm writing this while my boyfriend and I 'take a break'. I haven't any idea what that actually means except that he needs to work on some things with himself and with the Lord. and that's something that I cannot do with him (not at this stage of our relationship, if we were married this would be completely different).
So here is this list that I may add to later. lol.
1. Godly man: not only a relationship with the Lord, but one that is producing fruit and growing. A relationship that I see and want. And it would definitely help if our doctrine agreed. lol. Reformed Theology!
2. Respect for my parents, family, and me. I don't think I need to elaborate, but a close relationship with my family is very important to me. and I want that close relationship with his family.
3. Optimism: I feel that life can really suck if you want it to and be really awesome if you want it to. You just have to change your thinking. I chose to see trials, sufferings, and hurts in a way that will bring Glory to the Lord. I know this is because of my relationship with the Lord, but I also know that I can change how I look at my sucky job/job hours and put a positive spin on it. For instance, working graveyard shift frees my time between 2pm and 9pm where I get to see friends and family. Also, I know this is not permanent. It may be for a year or two, but I know that I want to find a position that I love.
4. An interest in nature. so this is not necessarily a requirement, but I just really love the outdoors even if I'm not doing a single thing but laying in the grass on a sunny day or laying in a hammock with the stars above. I love sunsets, trees, FLOWERS, and all of God's creation. I did put an emphasis on flowers for a reason. I really love flowers. I love to be given flowers, I love seeing flowers, I just love flowers.
5. a general knowledge of vehicles and woodworking. again, not a requirement, but one of my dreams is to fix up a house to be our dream house. an interest in these things would be nice.
6. finanically aware. this is a requirement. I don't mean that he shouldn't have student loan debt or a car loan, but I do mean he should be aware of his financial situation. A budget is necessary and working towards being debt free.
7. So I feel this should be like number 3 because of its importance, but I guess it doesn't matter because these things are not in order. but... I want him to be okay with being single. What I mean by that is that I want him to know himself... to like himself and be okay with being with himself. I understand the desire to be married and to have children because I, too, have that desire, but I also feel that I like myself enough and am okay with where I am at this point in my life that I'm okay with being single. In no shape or form do I NEED a man to complete me. This is not an independent woman rant, but rather a confidence rant. I know that the Lord can use me in my singleness and while being married.
8. good communication: I do not want someone that will blow up or walk away if things get rough. I want to talk it out or at least be able to say "I want to talk about this, but I need time to process things first". I think this requirement is very dear to me because quite frankly many men in my life are not good at that. They just run or yell then run. It makes me feel unvalued.
9. I need to finish this later....
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